I’ve been thinking about the subject of gratitude and cancer lately. With Thanksgiving this week, I think it’s good timing to write down a few of my thoughts.
I think most people get so caught up in their lives, what they are striving for, what they are working for, they lose sight of what they have.
I was recently part of a cancer thread on the internet. It was started by a woman who had breast cancer for a number of years, going through years of treatment, remission and relapses. Her latest treatment has failed, and she is out of options and is preparing to pass away. She was sharing how she was grateful for her life, and she also had some gratitude for cancer because it changed parts of her life for the positive.
Cancer patients who overcame their cancer and transformed their lives, transformed their being, they are the ones people usually hear or read about.
But perhaps that is not the norm?
In that same thread, another person shared, who has had lymphoma for the past 8 years. “I’m not so sure I’m grateful at this point. My entire 2025 has been cancer treatment and tests. I don’t have gratitude for anything.”
Reading that made me sad. Part of me does fully understand that thinking. Just like most cancer patients, some of the cancer treatments I have gone through have made me thoroughly miserable.
But I couldn’t help wondering to myself, why are you going through all of it if you have no joy in your life and nothing to be grateful for? What is the point? Is it the fear of death keeping you alive? I’m not faulting the person in any way, because I do understand. It’s such a shame that humanity’s answer to cancer is cancer treatments that sucked out this person’s essence.
Why do I do it? Why do I keep scraping myself off the floor (fortunately, I currently don’t have to scrape myself off the floor)? What do I have to be grateful for? Well, let me tell you.
It could be for something simple like, I’m done being nauseous after a chemo treatment. Or getting to see something amazing in nature, such as a sunrise or a 2000 year old tree.
But I think the things that I’m most grateful for are, watching my wife have a good laugh. Watching my children in their triumphs and helping them through their failures. Learning something new or having a witty conversation and having someone’s intellect rub on my own.

I really think the secret of happiness, or at least what I have come up with is, enjoy other people’s enjoyment. If I’m able to experience joy from other people’s joy, then I feel fulfilled.
I find myself somewhere in the cancer gratitude middle. I can be grateful for cancer for giving me a tremendous amount of time with my family. I’ve been able to be more involved with my children and enjoy watching them grow. It has forced me to look at myself, my life and see my flaws, and it’s given me an opportunity to correct things within myself. I’ve had the opportunity to meet other people with serious health problems who overcome things that you wouldn’t think possible. I’m eating healthier, exercising more and learning new skills.
On the other hand, it has really negatively impacted my finances and my ability to work. I’ve spent a lot of time going to treatments, being sick from treatments, and being in survival mode. If I die before I’m ready to go, I won’t be pleased. I guess I will have to see where I’ll end up to have my final answer on cancer gratitude.
I think it is important, especially when your life is challenging, any challenge, not just cancer, to remember what you have to be grateful for, even if it is something small. I think it enhances a person’s well-being, increases life satisfaction, and helps you remember why you are living.
What do you think? Does gratitude and cancer belong in the same sentence?

I’m grateful to have learned a new skill like growing reishi mushrooms.





























